In my line of work, I see this play out regularly in romantic relationships. A pattern can quietly develop between partners that neither person intends. On the surface, it may look like one partner is asking for something very simple: to feel thought of, chosen,...
When these situations repeat themselves over time, several psychological processes begin to shape how each partner interprets what is happening. Confirmation Bias One of the most influential processes is confirmation bias. Human beings naturally look for information that supports what they already believe. Once a...
In my work, I help couples arrive at the point when they are ready to shift their communication system and dynamic. I let them know that the most important step is not proving who is right or wrong about past events. The more productive task...