There are a lot of people walking around functioning at a high level… and quietly carrying more than their mind and body have had a chance to process. If you’re a professional, a leader, a parent, caregiver, or someone others rely on; you may already...
We all carry stories about ourselves. We have beliefs about who we are, what we’re capable of, and what tends to happen when we try. Some of these stories are empowering and others quietly limit us. These limiting beliefs often sound like: “I’m not enough.”...
In my line of work, I see this play out regularly in romantic relationships. A pattern can quietly develop between partners that neither person intends. On the surface, it may look like one partner is asking for something very simple: to feel thought of, chosen,...
When these situations repeat themselves over time, several psychological processes begin to shape how each partner interprets what is happening. Confirmation Bias One of the most influential processes is confirmation bias. Human beings naturally look for information that supports what they already believe. Once a...
In my work, I help couples arrive at the point when they are ready to shift their communication system and dynamic. I let them know that the most important step is not proving who is right or wrong about past events. The more productive task...